By Kolapo Olapoju
A lady, Yemisi Ilo, who has lived with ‘Multiple
Sclerosis’ (MS) for 10 years, and was a friend to late singer, Zara Gretti, who
recently passed after suffering from the terminal disease, said the singer did
not die as a result of MS, but due to complications from Agbo (Local herbs) and
Ignorance of people surrounding her.
Read her account of events below:
"Zara said she was being given ‘Agbo’ to drink by her family and
that it was killing her. Those were her exact words. I told her to NOT drink
it. With an already compromised immune system – Agbo is bullshit. It is poison.
MS is not malaria. I gave Zara clear details of exactly
what she needed to do to try to get well. It isn’t easy AT ALL – I should know but unfortunately for her, she was surrounded by very ignorant people at the end who felt that they knew best.
what she needed to do to try to get well. It isn’t easy AT ALL – I should know but unfortunately for her, she was surrounded by very ignorant people at the end who felt that they knew best.
I
first heard of Zara when I read about her on Linda Ikeji‘s blog a year ago. I
got in touch with her immediately and started a Skype friendship. I was in
London and she was in the States (US). We spoke regularly. When I went back to
Lagos, we would WhatsApp and I would call her. When she came to Nigeria in
October last year, I went to see her and she was surprised that she could move
better than me!
I
organized the Battabox interview (which we did at my parents house). She said
she didn’t want to live with her mum in the States – yet she had no one to look
after her there apart from her mum. She needed someone. She even wanted to come
and stay with me, but I am married with small children and my own MS issues
were already enough for one house.
I
am so pissed off, so angry, so fucking sad, teary and frustrated. If I had been
in Nigeria, I would have gone to pick her up on Tuesday when I spoke to her.
She was so desperate to leave Ogba. She said she had a return ticket to America
and would try to leave ASAP. I gave her my neurologist’s number so she could
get some steroids to help her get over the horrible relapse she was having.
Also to get her to explain the condition to Zara’s family so they would realize
that this was not an ‘Agbo’ matter.
I
have had MS for nearly 10 years. My walking has deteriorated and I am currently
alternating between a walker and a wheelchair. Zara was worried that she
wouldn’t get married and have kids – I told her that I had 4 kids and was
happily married and continued to work and that there was hope.
I
have always been vocal about MS and even appeared on a ‘Moments with Mo’ episode
talking about it. There are many Nigerians with MS – I know a few but they want
to keep quiet. Their families are embarrassed. Why? I don’t know? It can happen
to anyone at any time. Granted, I am extremely fortunate to have the strength
of character and a loving and supportive and enlightened family to deal with
this HORRIBLE condition that has led to this opportunity for me to undergo
Hemapioetic Stem Cell Transplant (HSCT) – Google it. It has taken donations
from over 100 people to do this. It costs over $150k (N24,727,501). I told Zara
that since she was a US citizen, she could get on a trial at the University of
Chicago under Dr. Burt for free.
I
just want people to know that MS didn’t kill Zara – ignorance did. As well as
our fatalistic attitude in Nigeria where everyone prays and no one takes
action. "
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